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The Door Knock of Divinity (Blog 38)

Manny — Thu, 12 Mar 2026 17:55:54 +0000

THE DOOR KNOCK OF DIVINITY

#1: Divinity Isn’t as High Up or Far Away as You’d Think

During the last Ice Age, about 35,000 years ago, an early human lived near a cave in what is now Southern Germany. Out of a mammoth tusk, this person carved a sculpture that is widely recognized as the first known depiction of a mythical deity. Since then, humanity has continued to perceive something beyond itself and has tried to capture it through religious ideologies. Believers follow the teachings of avatars like Christ, Buddha, or Krishna; and even atheists find a kind of divinity in the science of natural law. As inspiring as these pursuits have been, humanity has gotten lost in its search for divinity. We’ve attempted to plot an exact location for something that’s everywhere, and we’ve tried to assign an exclusive, finite value to something that’s all-inclusive and infinite. As a result, suffering - in many forms - has repeatedly accompanied inflexible religious doctrine.

Divinity, however, isn’t something that can be so easily defined or contained. And the more it slips through our grasp of understanding, the more our perspective must widen to perceive it. Entertain, for a moment, a concept of divinity that involves seeing it wherever you look… including when you look in a mirror. It’s common scientific knowledge that the material world - at an elemental level - is entirely composed of the same stuff acting differently. But what if this “stuff” is infused with an inherent intelligence with which we interact and are a part of? I know what some of you are thinking… that anything spiritual can be countered by a corresponding scientific explanation. But must the spiritual and scientific always be at odds? Humanity didn’t invent calculus, physics, or nuclear science. Their principles were inherent in the Universe long before we figured them out. What if divinity is another principle of science that we have yet to fully understand? Instead of relating it to fear-based religious dogma, try to hold the notion that divinity is akin to scientific properties like mass and energy… perhaps a yet to be measured “spark of life” that animates everything… and an omniscient awareness that already knows what we haven’t discovered.

From that perspective, divinity is as much in our complex scientific formulas as it is in the imposing sound of the thunder. It’s as much in the force that binds our Universe together as it is in the flutter of a butterfly’s wings. So too, is divinity within all the joy, passion, love, and beauty that humanity has ever experienced. Making an effort to see and feel this, we’ll discover that divinity is and always has been much closer to us than we ever imagined.

#2: Divinity Won’t Shut Up

Our lives are a process of evolving awareness, and as our awareness expands, it becomes clear that life itself is constantly broadcasting messages for us to hear. But like radio waves, these messages can’t be heard unless you’re listening for them on the right frequency. The frequency that allows us to hear what life is trying to tell us is a frequency of humility, openness, and love. Choosing to live from those qualities will automatically tune you in as long as you overcome tendencies for hubris, cynicism, and negativity - mindsets that automatically tune you out.

When you’re tuned in to this storehouse of benevolent intelligence, what you’ll hear is custom-tailored guidance that will help you navigate around anxiety, depression, and fear. Anyone who begins to live from a humble intention to be guided will see, hear, and feel this communication. Far from the biblical burning bush or thundering voice from the sky, these messages tend to be subtle. They may come in the form of an overheard conversation that just happens to speak to what you’re going through; or as a seemingly random text from a friend, perfectly timed to make you smile when you need it most; or turning on your TV at a particular scene of an inspiring show when you coincidentally need that exact inspiration. Placing yourself in a humble state of receptivity, you’ll be astounded to realize that you are not - nor were you ever - alone in this adventure called life.

#3: Divinity Is Always Listening

You can try to run, hide, cover your eyes, plug your ears, and deny this sublime aspect of life… but the unalterable truth is that there’s a background presence that knows every last detail about you, is with you through every trial, and never leaves your side. This presence is what life is made of, and it holds all the secrets and knows all the mysteries - both about your life and all of life. It doesn’t matter if you believe in it or not; it believes in you simply because you are inseparable from it. And whether you call this presence God, The Universal Oneness, or your own Higher Self, it’s always watching, always listening, and at half a heartbeat’s notice, it stands ready to help you in countless ways using countless instruments. So, the next time you feel lost, alone, confused, or afraid, all you have to do is pause, be open, watch, and listen. Divinity is that simple.

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The God Perspective (Blog 37)

Manny — Mon, 24 Nov 2025 21:30:01 +0000

THE GOD PERSPECTIVE

#1: See Children Everywhere You Look

Children are mostly unaware of how the world works. Their inability to see long-term costs for short-term gains (like a rough day at school after going to bed too late) largely eludes them. Although this lack of awareness comes with frustration, for both kids and parents, being somewhat ignorant of the world is part of the innocent bliss of childhood. But in a larger sense, childhood immaturity is not based on age alone. There are plenty of adults who act out and misbehave in ways that are objectively childish. When you encounter a misbehaving adult, you’re seeing someone who has - at least for the moment - reverted to an immature state of mind. In those instances, instead of seeing them as an adult who should know better, try seeing them as a frightened and confused child throwing a tantrum. This reins in your emotional reactivity and increases the compassion, patience, and benefit you can offer them.

Whether we’re talking about an 8-year-old child or an 80-year-old child, reality will eventually burst the bubble of ignorant, childish perceptions. And whenever that happens, it’s reassuring for them to have a wiser, calmer adult nearby for both comfort and advice. As mature adults, in our best moments, we embody a soothing presence of truth and love. But truth and love aren’t things we invent or create. Their source is found deep within the fabric of life itself… within a preexisting storehouse of intelligence that simply knows what works and what doesn’t work. Some call this intelligence, God. But you don’t have to call it that. You can simply see it as a framework of unchanging “spiritual physics” that is discoverable through trial and error.

#2: Know That Everyone Eventually Grows Up

From our limited human perspective, we have many unanswered questions about why people are the way they are. But there’s a much higher perspective out there. It’s a perspective that sees all misbehavior - including every horrific act in history - as perpetrated by young, deluded souls, at an early stage of evolution, who have some very tough lessons to learn… usually through the consequences of their choices. This viewpoint on the human soul’s experience could be called a “God perspective.” And, true to the term, it’s not easy to grasp and instantly overloads the morality circuitry in many of us. As you may have gathered, this is a spiritual philosophy podcast, not a religious one. But to wrap our minds around this “God perspective,” it may help to describe it using religious terminology. So, let’s give this a try: God loves a brutal dictator just as much as he loves a selfless social worker. But God knows the dictator has a long road of lifetimes ahead to evolve into the selfless social worker consciousness. He also knows that the social worker achieved their loving consciousness through many lifetimes of learning and evolution that no doubt included less than loving (or even brutal) behavior. Throughout eternity, while learning how to love, we all come from a starting place of ignorance to love. But as our lives unfold, the “spiritual physics” of the Universe persuades us to evolve using the stick of unpleasant turmoil and the carrot of joyful peace. It’s prudent to recognize, though, that the reasons for difficult experiences in anyone’s life are sometimes shrouded in mystery… a mystery that, without a spiritual perspective, our intellect cannot reconcile.

I know this “God perspective” is a big leap for many listening to this episode. But if even for a moment we can entertain this perspective, it will remind us, when observing each other’s bad behavior, that we’re really just seeing examples of our own forgotten past childishness. Of course, misbehavior brings consequences in life. But misbehavior is just another word for confusion, and it never reflects anyone’s true nature. When we forget this truth, our own inner peace falters; but that peace is never further than one compassionate thought away.

#3: Don’t Try To Grow Up Too Fast

Many well-meaning ministers, priests, and pastors encourage their followers to ask themselves when facing a choice, “What would Jesus do?” In certain circumstances, this question could inspire one to act with greater kindness or more integrity. But ultimately, referencing anyone else’s theoretical choice (much less a Godlike archetype) cannot be completely accurate for you and your life. The simple reason is that you are not them. As such, there’s no way to flawlessly overlay their theoretical choice onto your uniqueness as an individual. Trying to do so is an attempt to copy something that was never meant to be copied, but instead was meant to guide you into becoming your own person. What’s appropriate in any given scenario varies from person to person and is even different for the same person at different stages of their life. Choosing what to do or how to live is a process of self-discovery that is chiefly found within. If you try to replace that process with someone else’s, it’ll be difficult to discover who you are.

Having said all that, there’s no harm in looking up to someone else’s example. But you might not be ready to have an historical figure - whom many regard as perfect - as your everyday model. That’s the metaphorical equivalent of the Mt. Everest summit, representing the “finish line” on the road to self-realization. If you’re metaphorically working your way up a country hillside, while wrestling with intense fear and doubt, it could make you feel overwhelmed and discouraged to think about the snow-capped Himalayan peaks of human perfection. Instead, embrace where you are, and then take a step forward from there. Once you climb one hill of effective decision making, you’ll be ready for the next higher one… and then the next higher one after that. Step by step, you will eventually find yourself further along than you may have imagined… and what once appeared impossible will start to look attainable.

Because life is engineered for the benefit of our growth, and because growth is synonymous with greater love, the ultimate reflective question we can ask ourselves is, “What would love do now?” This is the only guidance we ever really need. And although how we define love changes over time, it’s enough to be true to our current definition of it. Incrementally, each greater loving choice you make will lead you to higher and higher definitions of love. And as your experiences of love become more profound, your answers to “What would love do now?” become more and more magnificent.

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The Magic of Mindfulness (Blog 36)

Manny — Wed, 29 Oct 2025 21:04:23 +0000

THE MAGIC OF MINDFULNESS

#1: Be Quick, But Never Hurry

Years ago, I had the fun and exhilarating experience of being driven around a racetrack by a world-class Formula 1 driver. I remember him saying to me, “Things must be done quickly in a racecar, but never in a hurry.” It wasn’t until years later that I fully understood the deep wisdom behind his words, along with the fact that he was describing - and demonstrating - mindfulness. Though we were barreling down the track at blistering speed, his breathing was slow and steady, his gearshifts were quick but not forceful, and his steering through turns was smooth and precise. It felt and looked as if he were a professional dancer performing an expertly choreographed mechanical ballet.

Mindfulness is generally defined as a state of heightened awareness. But this refers not only to awareness of one’s outer environment; it also refers to awareness of one’s inner environment. If our inner atmosphere is one of angst, tension, and emotional turmoil, this will obscure awareness of our outer world and hinder our capacity to skillfully handle it. Paradoxically, when we’re under stress or running late with too much to do, great efficiency is gained by slowing down… taking the edge off our frantic motions… breathing a little slower and deeper… and being vigilant that we’re not trying to fruitlessly bring order to chaos by being chaotic ourselves. Instead of being life’s wrestling opponent, this approach changes you into life’s dance partner. As a result, you’ll make fewer mistakes that would’ve cost you extra time; your daily tasks will be done with far less stress; and most importantly, you’ll be a much healthier and more pleasant person.

#2: Be Where Your Feet Are

There are many highly successful people who all tell the same story about their big break. They observed that they made it big when they stopped trying to make it big… they just started concentrating on what they were doing. By their own admission, these people aren’t necessarily more talented, intelligent, or even harder working than others in their fields. They simply discovered the magic of living in the now. We often rush through the now, mistaking the next moment as more important. But what we fail to realize is that how we live in the now determines what comes next. If we’re too destination-oriented, we lose focus on what’s directly in front of us. Using a racing metaphor, if you’re solely focused on the checkered flag or catching another car, the quality of your driving tends to diminish, and your goal gets further away. Turn by turn, day by day, and moment by moment, life is lived, solved, and experienced in increments. The more incremental our approach to life is, the more present we can be, and the more progress we will make.

Of course, living fully in the now is enhanced by the inspiration of what’s possible down the road. But engaging where you are makes each moment your destination… and you’ll begin to understand that your long-term goal integrates into (and depends upon) how you live in the present moment. No matter how messy or off course your current moment may be, there is always the opportunity to breathe, be where your feet are, and get back on track.

#3: Be Still

Remaining calm and composed at 200 MPH (literally or figuratively) sounds all well and good… but how is it achieved? The answer is much simpler than you’d think. Be still. Life constantly invites us to take part in its built-in synchronicity, but we can only perceive it when our minds are quiet and still. This synchronicity speaks to us in the same nonverbal terms as a beautiful sunset or a fathomless, starlit sky. Through stillness, we connect to an awareness that gives us clarity. And once we tap into that clarity, everything improves… and I do mean everything. We become better managers of our lives with new capacity to make higher choices; we strengthen our relationships with enhanced listening skills; we find words which constructively express our feelings; we experience more joy from life’s little things; and we even get more peaceful sleep. These are just some of the things that happen when we regularly take time to be still. Being still cuts through the mental clutter of fear, insecurity, and pessimism that our minds habitually generate.

The next time you feel overwhelmed and that your day (or your life) is out of control, take just a minute or two for an on-the-fly meditation. This can be done in your car, on a subway, in a restroom, in a closet, or wherever. Just be still and breathe… slowly, deeply, and with your eyes closed. Thoughts may continue to pop up, but watch them… one by one… as if you’re watching lightning in a distant thunderstorm… images flashing to life and then disappearing. As you breathe in, slowly and silently count to 4. And as you breathe out, slowly and silently count to 4 again. Keep repeating this slow, simple rhythm as long as you can or until your mind settles. At some point, you’ll find that the counting stops on its own, and your slow, intentional breathing happens automatically with you as the observer of it. Besides grounding yourself, this method is also a great meditation for falling asleep.

Meditation comes in many forms, and the only thing that matters is choosing one that speaks to you. But if done proactively and consistently for just a few minutes before getting up and again before going to bed (as well as during the day as needed), intentional breathing meditation will calm your mind and can change your life. And remember: for things to change and improve from meditation, you don’t have to be good at it; you just have to be good at not giving up on it.

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Fortifying Faith (Blog 35)

Manny — Tue, 30 Sep 2025 17:55:58 +0000

FORTIFYING FAITH

#1: Think with Faith

Faith is defined as ‘complete trust and belief with strong conviction.’ It can be applied to something as trivial as a trusty tool to something as monumental as “the arc of the moral universe,” as Martin Luther King, Jr. put it. But to some, faith is a fantasy. Whether it’s faith in God, the Universe, a political leader, or even a friend or family member, anyone can seemingly let us down by not meeting our expectations. However, faith is an interactive phenomenon that invites us to participate in the positive evolution of our circumstances. At first glance, this participation sounds like a lot of work. But much of the work that makes faith operational is not so much about doing something as it is about undoing something. That something is our default reaction of being negative in the face of disappointment. To avoid this downward spiral of negativity, which most of us have experienced, it’s helpful to contemplate the ancient Arabic proverb, “What’s meant for you will never miss you, and what misses you was never meant for you.” Interestingly, you don’t have to believe in a higher power for this sentiment to be useful in your life. Yes, the proverb does have a spiritual origin. But at its core, it’s really just inviting you to be patient with life… to be open to things turning out better than you had planned… and to welcome an expansion of awareness that offers greater clarity regarding why things happen as they do.

Thinking with faith is an inherently optimistic mindset that leads to more happiness and lightness of heart. It’s reminiscent of the folktale about a boy who was given a pile of manure as a gag gift on his birthday. Overcome with joy, the boy jumped into the manure exclaiming, “There must be a pony in here somewhere!”

#2: Act with Faith

In addition to thinking with faith, it also serves us to act with faith. A second Arabic proverb illustrates this concept perfectly: “Trust in Allah, but remember to tie up your camel.” Core to the idea of “trusting in Allah” (or simply a higher order in the Universe) is a refusal to believe in happenstance. When you act with faith, you trust that there’s a bigger process at play, even if you can’t yet perceive or completely understand that process. That trust gives you strength and courage to face whatever life brings. So, when you metaphorically “tie up your camel,” you simply do so out of prudence and can then be at peace - regardless of outcomes - knowing that you’ve done your part. Your other option is to act without faith while going to paranoid and extreme measures. And despite those extreme measures, you will still be in a state of angst because you haven’t let go of your fear by embracing faith. The aim is to marry faithful, optimistic thinking with faithful, balanced action. That is the ideal formula for both effectiveness in your life and peace in your mind.

#3: Reflect with Faith

To balance ourselves in a state of faithful equilibrium between how we think and how we act, steady practice of self-reflection is required. And any practice of self-reflection involves self-responsibility. For example, choose not to feel victimized by a health challenge, but rather seek to see your part in it and consider lifestyle changes that could bring you out of it. Lament less about an unpleasant work environment, and strategize more about how to find something new. Complain less about your relationship dramas, and strive more to comprehend what life is trying to teach you by way of those dramas and how to rise above them.

By reflecting on our difficulties in these ways, we’ll find that we subconsciously self-sabotage much more than we ever thought. And the deeper we reflect, the more we’ll discover how nuanced that self-sabotage can be. Things we once regarded as harmless are analyzed through a more powerful lens. For instance, as a culture, we’ve developed an unsettling numbness to violence. A large percentage of today’s films, shows, and video games glorify killing and romanticize war. Repeatedly exposing ourselves to this extremely violent entertainment plants images in our psyche that eventually seep into our daydreams (and quite often, our nightmares). And like a steady diet of digital junk food, these images will cause psychological indigestion and manifest within our lives in unhealthy ways. Nothing is intrinsically external. To calm the chaos in our outer life, we must first calm the chaos in our inner life. A constant stream of disturbing images and dark fantasies will inevitably make your inner and outer chaos more chaotic.

Still, though… the world is intelligently designed as a remedial system of trial and error that encourages us to choose higher (often through self-created hardship). But our journey through this world is made much easier when we consider the higher perspective that whatever shows up is only part of a beautiful mosaic so large it stretches beyond our ability to see it all. Our experience of life vastly improves when we trust that reasons for outcomes exist beyond our own ability to reason. We can then loosen our grip on the idea that bad things can happen and consider that “bad things” are just things for which we don’t have an immediate explanation. It may take a few lifetimes, but we’ll all eventually realize that faith isn’t an exercise in believing something… it’s an exercise in becoming aware of something.

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The Flaw in Fighting (Blog 34)

Manny — Sun, 31 Aug 2025 19:46:43 +0000

THE FLAW IN FIGHTING

#1: Fighting Isn’t for Everyone

Given this is a spiritual philosophy podcast, fighting is framed here as something we can one day evolve beyond. The catch, of course, is that we’re all in different stages of spiritual evolution. Those who still engage in fighting, though, are not lesser people in any way. In fact, some of the bravest and most selfless among us are those who fight injustice and oppression. But life on our planet works because we’re all serving different functions. Thankfully, it resonates with some to serve as police officers and soldiers. Currently, society has plenty of immature behavior requiring attention from those in uniform, and sometimes that attention involves fighting. Although, to varying degrees, there are those with whom fighting does not resonate... from people who won’t fight unless it’s for a greater cause, to those who fight only in self-defense, and ultimately, to those who are unconditionally nonaggressive and nonviolent. That last category, which is sometimes referred to as Christ or Buddha consciousness, is what we’ll explore in depth here.

It’s obviously easier not to fight while living in a utopia where poverty is eliminated through sharing, diversity is always celebrated, and disagreements are settled peacefully. But that’s not where we live… at least, not yet. For now, there are still many hurting and unhealed souls looking for fights along with those who give them what they want. This happens with weapons on battlefields, with money in legal battles, and with bullies on playgrounds. How we choose to respond or not respond to that aggression is up to us.

#2: Fighting Feeds on Itself

Let’s get deeper. Here’s an overriding spiritual theory to consider: Fighting - even in the name of peace - will eventually lead you back into war. If the willingness to fight exists within you, it will attract and activate that same aggressive potential in others. In turn, this queues up an endless flow of adversaries - whether on social media, in 5 o’clock traffic, or in your personal life - that will be drawn to you. When you arm yourself - with combative thoughts and words, or with actual weapons - life will bring you reasons to arm yourself. This theory rests on the basic principle that what you put out into the world comes back to you… and what you cause another to experience, you will one day experience. Therefore, choosing any form of violence or aggression as a response traps you on an aggression pendulum that will never stop swinging until you do (pun intended). And the more intense your aggressive or violent responses, the more intense will be the difficulties you’ll attract. To see this overarching pattern of life, one must be open to perceiving spiritual truths that operate beyond our 5 senses. And to free oneself from the aggression pendulum, one must cultivate a calm faith that life unfolds as it needs to, and that there’s a higher, hidden purpose for every circumstance.

I realize these sweeping, counterintuitive concepts are not easily integrated into life as you may currently know it. But try to entertain the notion that in the eventual evolution of our souls, we’ll one day grow out of the limited, jungle mentality of fighting, into a highly evolved existence that is unconditionally nonaggressive and nonviolent. However, don’t confuse this nonaggression with a lack of courage or an unwillingness to act in response to violence. Intervening happens, but it’s done creatively and with love for both the attacked and the attacker. The highly evolved simply see the attacker as someone whose hurt and confusion have driven them to a dark, unsustainable place. The lost soul of an attacker doesn’t need another fight - they already have that in abundance. Choosing to meet them with indomitable compassion instead of aggression is our only hope of helping them, as well as humanity itself, evolve out of the jungle.

#3: Beyond Fighting is Limitless Evolution

Circling back to the Christ / Buddha consciousness alluded to earlier, making the higher choice of “loving your enemies” is one of the most profound moments in any soul’s evolution. It takes a willingness to face death - whether yours or your loved ones’ - in the name of refusing to sink into the darkness that comes with letting the jungle define who you are. That refusal is the highest possible expression of courage. Of course, to reach this elevated place, it’s necessary to discover that you and your loved ones have souls that can never die, and although we may not be consciously aware, we’re all living perfectly orchestrated lives of spiritual free will, including the timing and circumstances of our so-called deaths. The closer you move to the realization that nothing can happen to any of us without our soul’s consent, the less likely it is that your own fear will scare you into being violent.

History is replete with massively influential spiritual icons, political leaders, and civil rights activists who demonstrated the power of standing up to injustice with love. Their stories - and how they changed the world - are proof that life itself rises to support those who courageously, compassionately, and sometimes sacrificially stand their ground with love, willing to die for a noble cause, but never willing to kill for it. But we don’t need to reach in one leap (or in one lifetime) the exceedingly high bar set by those extraordinary souls. It’s enough to just reach for whatever we perceive as our next bar, which could be as simple as not losing our temper at a rude driver in traffic.

Finally, I feel it’s important to conclude this episode as we began it - with endless gratitude and admiration for those in uniform who protect our society’s process of cultural, spiritual, and personal evolution. They’re the ones who provide the guardrails necessary to work our way toward the abundant, evolved, nonviolent utopia of our most inspired dreams.

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The Misperception of Evil (Blog 33)

Manny — Wed, 30 Jul 2025 21:23:14 +0000

THE MISPERCEPTION OF EVIL

#1: Context Brings Understanding

There are certain species of insects and snakes whose females consume their mates, when they have no more use for them; alpha male lions and alpha female meercats often kill and eat the cubs and pups of rivals; chimpanzees have been known to cannibalize members of opposing families; and even dolphins have been observed going on murderous rampages, killing other marine life - not for food - but purely for sport. If any human engaged in these acts, society would label those individuals “evil.” But even though we share 99% of our DNA with chimpanzees, we behold their gruesome behavior as just another day in the Darwinian jungle. Of course, none of these animals are evil. In their struggle for survival, they simply lack the capacity for human morality. For many different reasons, some of our fellow humans also struggle with morality while behaving like animals. Out of touch with their deeper self, they can’t yet see their own capacity to grow and experience life at higher levels. These people are, in a sense, spiritual children at an early stage of development. But not even their most horrific behavior can erase the dormant love and limitlessness potential inherent within them.

The implication that no one is inherently evil is a big leap. But consider the notion that evil doesn’t actually exist. Just as darkness and coldness don’t exist on their own because they’re defined by an absence of light and heat, evil doesn’t exist on its own because it’s also defined by an absence of something - love and truth.

#2: Understanding Eclipses Experience

These spiritual and philosophical musings about evil do not negate or ignore, for example, the emotional cataclysm experienced by the family of someone who was sex trafficked or murdered. Typically, for them, not seeing their loved one’s murderer as evil is a bridge way too far. And without a colossal shift in how they understand life and death, that bridge remains unreachable. However, despite extremely difficult life circumstances, there are 2 underlying truths of reality that remain unchanged. At first, these truths may be difficult to hear; but with a willingness to perceive beyond the limits of the mind, these 2 truths become comforting: 1) There’s a nearly incomprehensible but purposeful orchestration in what we perceive as tragedy, and that orchestration centers around - not our brief physical lives - but around our growth as eternal souls… and 2) Most are unaware that we’ve all signed up for our own challenges… and that we’re all unwitting participants in each other’s difficulties for the purpose of achieving higher consciousness and greater love. These 2 truths reflect an elegantly simple system that’s also mind-blowingly complex. We start out as unconscious creators of our experience; but we’re given endless opportunities to become conscious creators. Yes, it’s hard along the way. Yes, it’s painful. But yes, it’s worth it, because despite how many lifetimes it takes, we’re all evolving toward an existence of unfathomable joy where negativity simply doesn’t exist. And with regard to a world of perceived good and evil, some souls are just further along on that evolution than others.

#3: Reality Is Bigger Than You Think

Looking around at our world, it’s clear that we’ve got a long way to go before we can call ourselves an evolved society. And it’s not helpful to do or say nothing in the face of unevolved behavior. There’s a need to participate, and there’s certainly still a need for police officers, judges, corrections officers, and those in the military. From our cultural childhood, we can’t skip adolescence on our way to adulthood. We can, however, aspire to become more by being the change we wish to see. Notice, though, how motivation to change is diminished when we buy into the limiting perspective that reality is random and impersonal. Reality is much bigger than those small concepts, and the depth of its intelligently-designed truth is hiding in plain sight.

From the highest perspective, the joy of human evolution wouldn’t be possible without the concept of evil, simply because there would be nowhere from which to evolve. The dark consequences of evil choices serve as guideposts that encourage us to make loving choices. The bright consequences of loving choices serve as beacons that lead us to prosperity and happiness. Without the bitter cold, there would be no experience of comforting warmth. Without the ominous darkness, there would be no perception of beautiful light. The awe-inspiring night sky is made possible because of a backdrop of darkness. Observe the darkness as evil and confusion; observe the stars as love and truth. Only then will you see that both are part of the same spectacular tapestry.

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The Illusion of Death (Blog 32)

Manny — Fri, 31 Jan 2025 21:58:07 +0000

THE ILLUSION OF DEATH

#1: Behold Death with Wonder

Many of us were fortunate to have experienced the splendor of childhood… playfully living in the moment… not knowing what each new day would bring… and being amazed by discovering wonders in our world for the first time. As we get older, it can be difficult to hold onto that sense of wonder. But when we contemplate death, it’s useful to resurrect our childhood spirit of wonder, because it will lead us to a more optimistic perspective. It can turn the dim prospect of nonexistence into an intriguing, open question. And we don’t have to have religion or even believe in a traditional concept of God to hold that question open. We just need enough humility to admit that we don’t know what we don’t know. While wrestling with this immense question, it helps to remember that discovering something new is sometimes more about feeling than it is about thinking. After all, most of our deepest life impressions are related to how something or someone made us feel, not how they made us think. Those feelings are personal and unique. And just like an evolving, personal awareness about an afterlife, you can’t quantify, prove, or transfer those deep feelings to anyone else.

But let’s do a little more thinking on this subject. Consider the endlessly cycling seasons of our planet. These are periods of constant beginnings and endings. One always leads to another, and for any season to be experienced, its relative opposite must also exist (summer would have no relatable meaning without winter). Death is no different; it’s just one part of another cycle. It scares us because, for most, our conscious mind hasn’t yet developed the capacity to understand death, much less see beyond it. But despite the mind’s skepticism, the truth is that our core essence is something that can never die. Immortality is our unconditional birthright and is inherent to what we are. In fact, it’s so inherent that it doesn’t even require our belief.

#2: Behold Life with Surprise

For many, it would be surprising to discover that their current life isn’t their first rodeo and that they’ve repeatedly transformed over many lives. But if we look around, we’ll see that - along with countless cycles - transformation is everywhere… from Earth’s crust reforming through volcanoes, to plant and animal life recycling within ecosystems, and to the explosive death and rebirth of stars and solar systems. Our consciousness is part of this universal system and is also in a never-ending state of transformation. As to why you may not remember your past “transformations,” consider how distracting that recollection would be to your current life. If you’re on a trip through the Costa Rican rainforests, I doubt you’d choose to spend much time thinking about a past trip you took to New York City. You wouldn’t want to because it would detract from your current experience.

Some argue that the pain and hardship of life invalidate the concept of reincarnation. Why would anyone choose to come back into such circumstances? Yet every day, people voluntarily go to dentists for very uncomfortable procedures - including root canals or having teeth pulled - to stop endlessly throbbing toothaches. And every day, people torture themselves while painfully disinfecting their own wounds to prevent infection and accelerate healing. It’s clear that what’s good for our long-term benefit can be painful in the short-term. And, surprise! … The big picture of your soul’s eternal life is no different.

#3: Behold Yourself as Limitless

It’s easy - and from a limited perspective, even logical - to believe that we are nothing more than the sum of our genetics and a collection of stored data and memories in our brains. But we aren’t defined by those physical attributes any more than we’re defined by what clothes we happen to be wearing. Looking into a mirror, we see someone who’s male, female, or transgender, tall or short, young or old, etc. However, that’s just our current experience. There’s a hidden part of each one of us that makes those outer “garments” come to life. We’re talking here, of course, about the soul, and it’s who we really are.

As you limitlessly tour through time and space, your soul is enriched by each new chapter of a book that never had a beginning and will never have an end. On this journey, there’s no waiting for what comes next; you’re living what comes next - in this very moment - and you will never stop. And no matter how great you think you have it or how much greater you can picture things becoming, your wildest imaginings barely scratch the surface of what lies beyond your sight. It’s observable that some of us temporarily get lost or deluded along the way. But we’ve all chosen to come into this world for the same basic reason: to grow together into a heavenly state of unconditional love that leads to an indescribable ecstasy of joy. And we’re all here trying desperately to learn - or rather, remember - that all endings in life and in death unfailingly lead to new beginnings.

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Drama: Finding the High Ground (Blog 31)

Manny — Sun, 29 Dec 2024 14:27:44 +0000

DRAMA: FINDING THE HIGH GROUND

#1: Rise Above Drama

During a hurricane a few years ago, I had the unsettling experience of watching a nearby lake overflow its shores and creep up my driveway. Once it reached my front steps, the water then flowed around the house and into the backyard, turning my home into a virtual island. Although I could see fish happily exploring my yard, I was fortunate because my house was built on a slight knoll, giving it just enough high ground to stay dry. This hurricane story is a useful metaphor that can be applied to our interpersonal dramas. As humans living among other humans, we’re all veterans of the difficult emotions and exhausting interactions that come with drama. Insensitive agendas, hypersensitive feelings, negative assumptions, and fear-based anger are the primary drivers that make egos clash and sparks fly. There’s an element to this, however, that’s part of personal growth. This growth can happen when we recognize that we can’t stop the floodwaters of drama; we can only control whether they reach us internally, and in many cases, externally. Building your metaphorical house above drama’s floodplain requires that you remain vigilant of three things: First, evaluate your personal agendas to determine if they’re adversely affecting others, and if they are, see if you can adjust them; second, notice when you’re taking things personally or making negative assumptions, and try instead to stay as objective and optimistic as you can; and third, observe when your fear is fueling your anger, and then manage that fear by facing it instead of compounding it by attempting to ignore it. These three “locks,” if you will, enable you to slow the flow of drama while elevating your state of mind.

Drama wants your participation - it wants you to react. And the more negative and angrier it can get you to react, the more it can thrive. When you’re able to quiet your upset mind and genuinely open yourself to a different perspective, you’ll realize a counterintuitive truth: Sometimes drama with others is a necessary teacher, and the drama we go through is often an opportunity to grow beyond it. Reframing dramatic interactions in this way will help you avoid two mistakes that many people make when dealing with drama: running from it and/or trying to manipulate it. If you’re running from drama, you’re running to inherently lower ground, and drama will absolutely find you. If you’re trying to manipulate a drama-filled situation, your manipulation will usually backfire, drawing you deeper into drama. The most effective tactic to be a light for others amid their drama storms is to simply do your best to be calm and compassionate.

#2: Seek Shelter Within

When you center yourself and remain composed while people around you are being dramatic, you instantly become part of the solution. You also become a place of shelter for those being thrashed around by their own reactivity. In the midst of their turmoil, they’ll be drawn to your peaceful presence if for no other reason than it’s starkly different from the swirling chaos surrounding them. Your choice to remain calm by not jumping to or endorsing their negative conclusions creates an atmosphere of grounded clarity that can be infectious. This isn’t about trying to convince someone to think or do X or Y; it’s about inviting them to approach their circumstance from a more positive, less emotional, and oftentimes less selfish perspective. In short, you’re welcoming them into your drama shelter and showing them how to find their own shelter within themselves.

Be cautious, though, because drama’s floodwaters are persistent. While helping someone else - especially someone close to you - it’s likely they will say or do something that may throw you off-center and feed your inner fears. But if you can steady yourself with the principle that drama is frequently an important part of growth, and if you can muster the humility to admit that you don’t know what’s best for all involved, you’ll regain your center and keep your head above the flood. When and if you feel yourself slipping back into drama’s torrent, a helpful affirmation to get you through it is: “I am here… to help those who are gripped by fear… regain their peace of mind.”

#3: Make Drama Your Mentor

This may sound a little strange, but it’s important to get the most out of our dramas. Think of life’s dramas as spotlights that focus themselves onto things that need to be changed or improved. If everything was as good as it could get, and we were all as wise and enlightened as we could be, drama wouldn’t exist. As a society and as individuals, whether we realize it or not, our collective intention is to walk a path of higher evolution toward greater happiness. But to advance on that path, self-honesty is mission-critical. Without blaming others, when we’re honest about our part in how we got ourselves into drama, it gives us the power to change. And with that change comes the capability to avoid so much stress and unpleasantness in life. Drama isn’t a phenomenon that happens to us; it’s a force that happens for us. The discomfort we feel in the throes of drama motivates us to adjust our thoughts and our actions so we can rise above drama… above the limiting perspective of victim and villain… above the false nobility of constant struggle… and above the negative reactivity that’s driven by an insecure need for validation.

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Giving Annoyance-free Advice (Blog 30)

Manny — Sun, 31 Mar 2024 13:30:57 +0000

GIVING ANNOYANCE-FREE ADVICE

#1: Try Not to Be a Fixer

One of the trickiest parts of being a friend or family member to fellow adults is knowing how best to offer constructive help in the form of advice. The first and perhaps biggest pitfall in this endeavor is the assumption that we know what’s best for someone else. This pitfall is made wider and deeper when our advice-giving becomes a personal crusade. Despite whatever good intentions we have, if we are overly aggressive with our advice (or in some cases, our opinion), this will likely be interpreted by the recipient in a negative way… something like, “This person thinks I’m broken and that it’s their job to fix me.” The inherent condescension that comes with forcing one’s advice on someone else is often unintended, but it’s always there. Understandably, if a good friend or family member is having a rough time, we want their pain to stop (as well as our pain as we watch them struggle). However, waving a magic wand of advice with the perfect words that will fix their troubles isn’t typically a viable strategy. Nor is overlaying our experience onto their current challenges and assuming it will be a perfect fit. When you’re asked for advice, your personal experiences will certainly inform the counsel you give, but remember to give that counsel with the sole intention of helping them find their truth, not your truth. Any friendly advice is best received in an atmosphere of guiding, not directing. If you use directive words like “should” or “have to,” they inescapably come with subtle judgment attached. What’s more, if things don’t go well for the person you’re counseling who has ignored your directive advice, an implied, “I told you so” in your voice will echo in their ears. And no one wants to hear that.

#2: Fear is the Only Thing to Fear

Making decisions from fear has resulted in some of the worst outcomes in world history, not to mention bad outcomes within countless personal lives. Fear contracts both the mind and the intuition, and it catapults us into an imaginary future, taking us out of the present moment where the best decisions are made. That’s why the most effective advice isn’t about the grainy details of choosing X vs. Y; it’s about where someone is coming from when they’re about to choose X vs. Y. What’s needed most in times of stressful choices is an investigation into why someone fears what they fear, and whether that fear is taking control of their choice. If you perceive that whoever is asking for advice is up for this kind of self-reflection, you can help them extract their fears from the abyss of their darkly imaginative mind. Once fears are pulled out by their roots from that place and scrutinized in the light of day, they tend to become a lot less scary. And when this process of facing one’s fears is earnestly engaged, it automatically boosts courage and enhances judgment.

#3: Know When to Be Quiet

It’s good to remember that giving advice is a fluid process that can come to a screeching halt at any time. Sometimes, a nerve can be hit or the capacity to talk about something can be reached that will trip the advice-seeker’s mental circuit breaker. Be sensitive when that happens, and try to stop talking even if you’re about to say something you think they really need to hear. Continuing to fill someone’s mental or emotional cup when it’s spilling over isn’t helpful. Even the best advice-givers cannot control whether their advice is received. The only thing controllable is how well advice is delivered. But a continuous opportunity to learn is embedded in the fabric of life itself. And if whomever you are speaking to can’t connect to what you’re trying to teach them, life will find a way of getting their needed lesson to them from another source. Sometimes, though, there’s no other way for someone to learn but through hard experience. Understanding and accepting that possibility will aid in keeping an unhelpful overexuberance from creeping into your tone and demeanor as you counsel them.

Sharing your advice in an effort to help someone can be an invaluable offering. However, if you want to give good advice in a non-annoying way that doesn’t encroach on someone’s process, the most important skill to foster is being a good listener. Frequently, that’s at least half of what anyone seeking advice really needs.

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The Craft of Communication (Blog 29)

Manny — Tue, 27 Feb 2024 21:56:50 +0000

THE CRAFT OF COMMUNICATION

#1: Bad Communication is Like Bad Breath

Each of us has a mouth, and within our mouths lives bacteria. When that bacteria is allowed to multiply uncontrollably, the result is bad breath. For several reasons, it’s difficult for us to smell our own bad breath. However, it’s very easy for us to smell someone else’s bad breath. Counterproductive communication follows this same pattern. Sometimes, how we speak to people may pass our own “smell test,” but the people we’re speaking to can have an entirely different perception of the words we choose and how we speak them. What we’re trying to communicate might be very important, inciteful, or helpful, but it will never be heard unless sincere effort is invested in how it’s delivered. Quite often, it’s not our actual words that cripple our message or inflame a situation, but it’s the tone we choose which triggers others or prevents them from hearing us. For example, when we’re intentionally or unintentionally harsh, blunt, or curt, others can perceive this to be aggressive or condescending. That perception will usually trip their defenses, and anyone who’s in defense mode cannot objectively listen to what’s being said. To avoid this, we must listen to ourselves speak, and then redirect what we’re saying and how we’re saying it as if we’re speaking to ourselves – or better yet, as if someone else were speaking to us in precisely the same way. When we do this, we’ll more easily detect the “bad breath” of insensitivity, impatience, anger, or cynicism that can creep into our words and into our tone without us realizing it.

#2: How You Communicate is How You Grow

Our ways of communicating with each other are the tip of a mostly unseen, psychological and spiritual iceberg. A trove of internal processes and growth opportunities are revealed when we analyze how we speak to others and how others speak to us. Off-putting words or tones of voice don’t just surface out of nowhere. When we hear them from ourselves or from another, their source is unfailingly a negative emotion pointing to a deeper issue. Anger is usually sponsored by fear; criticism can come from insecurity; bossiness often sprouts from an unhealthy obsession with control, and the list goes on. If you attentively replay your mental recording of any interaction you’ve had with anyone, you’ll begin to see an undercurrent of where they’re coming from when they speak. The benefit of seeing this is that you can’t help but have greater compassion for someone - even if they’re lashing out - when you understand that they are afraid or hurting inside. And when you notice similar, unhealed aspects within yourself, you’ll develop more self-compassion and self-forgiveness, and you’ll discover an inner roadmap to healing those raw emotions at their source.

Of course, when watching yourself or others communicate with empathy, kindness, patience, and love, you’ll see the tip of a different iceberg - an evolving iceberg… one that reflects maturity and a fully engaged growth process in magnificent bloom.

#3: Strategic Authenticity is Key

This may seem counterintuitive, but it doesn’t always serve you to be authentic. As we’ve established, it benefits our relationships, as well as our effectiveness in life, to keep our “bad breath” of negative emotions from spreading around to others. But we’re all humans who are evolving, and sometimes we have bad days when it’s difficult to speak or act with love and patience. On those days, our authentic inner atmosphere is not very pretty. This is when it’s important to remember the adage, “Fake it till you make it.” When someone triggers you on a bad day, you may feel it’s authentic to snap at them or to be snarky, but this inevitably works against you as it can damage relationships and leave you feeling regretful. Taking a deep breath, faking a smile, and even offering a head nod or two to buy time will go a long way in giving you internal space to cool down and respond tactfully. Bottling up anger, of course, isn’t helpful either. But there are many proven methods to vent and manage anger in ways that don’t involve nuclear blasts of emotional outbursts. Many of those methods are ongoing and proactive - things like meditation, exercise, and even mental simulations of triggering circumstances. When done consistently, practices like those will make you stronger and give you the capacity to change the occasional bad day into something good.

This strategic authenticity talk isn’t to say you shouldn’t share with others how you’re feeling or confide in others about your current difficulties. That kind of call for help and support is very healthy. The most important thing to remember, though, is that life is all about the expansion of love. And the more we try to ground our communication in love - even and especially when we’re frustrated or angry - the less difficulty we will create for ourselves, and the more easily we will move through and rise above our challenges.

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